🦋 Freedom Friday – April 5 "Breaking Free from Perfectionism: My Story of Messy Healing"
There was a time I thought healing had to look a certain way.
Neat. Ordered. Peaceful. Pretty.
But mine? Mine looked like crying in the car, journaling at 2 a.m., apologizing to my kids after yelling, and trying again the next day. It looked like setting boundaries I didn’t always keep… and then learning how to reset them with grace.
For a long time, I felt like I was failing at healing—because it wasn’t perfect. I didn’t have it “all together,” and I definitely didn’t have a Pinterest-worthy routine.
But then it hit me: Perfectionism was the cage.
I wasn’t failing at healing—I was just breaking free from the idea that healing had to look a certain way.
🧨 What Perfectionism Stole From Me
It robbed me of:
Celebrating progress because I was focused on what wasn’t done yet.
Taking rest because I didn’t feel like I’d earned it.
Speaking my truth because I didn’t want to be misunderstood or judged.
I lived with this invisible pressure to “get it right” all the time. And when I couldn’t, I’d shut down. Or overperform. Or silently beat myself up for not being more “together.”
If you’ve ever felt like your healing doesn’t look the way it “should,” I want to lovingly tell you: It’s not supposed to.
🌸 The Truth About Healing
Healing is not linear.
It’s not clean.
And it’s definitely not perfect.
It’s brave.
It’s messy.
It’s full of trying, failing, learning, and trying again.
Sometimes it’s a breakthrough.
Sometimes it’s just surviving.
And sometimes… it’s dancing in the kitchen because for five minutes, you felt joy again.
That’s what real healing looks like.
đź’— Freedom Starts With Grace
Freedom didn’t come when I figured it all out—it came when I stopped pretending I needed to.
When I allowed myself to show up messy. To be human. To grow imperfectly.
If you’re holding yourself to impossible standards today, let this be your reminder:
🕊️ You don’t have to be perfect to be powerful.
🕊️ You don’t have to be polished to be healing.
🕊️ You are allowed to be in process.
Let go of the pressure. Let go of the image.
And breathe into the beautiful mess of becoming.
You’re not broken. You’re breaking free.
đź’« A Note About Protection:
Just as I learned to embrace imperfect healing, I've also learned that true freedom includes protecting our future selves. Sometimes the bravest thing we can do is acknowledge that we need support systems in place. Whether that's emotional support or financial protection, it's all part of loving ourselves completely.
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With love and messy grace, Carrie đź’—
